Christmas time is a time of joy, magic, and togetherness for a lot of people. But for children in foster care, the festive season can bring a mix of emotions. For these children, past experiences of trauma, loss, or uncertainty may make this time of year challenging. But that's where you can help.
As a foster carer, you hold an important role as someone who can help to heal those traumas and create a Christmas that's filled with love, simple joys like playing a board game with the family, and above all, a sense of connection with the child in your home.
As December rushes in, it can be easy to get swept up in the hustle and bustle, the consumerism, or the idea of a crafting the perfect decorations, prepping an extensive multi-course meal or getting that one extra present that you think will prove your love. But for children in foster care, the magic of Christmas doesn’t come from perfection – it comes from feeling safe, valued, and connected. Here are some tips to help foster carers make Christmas a joyful time for children in care.
A warm and welcoming atmosphere can mean more than extravagant celebrations. Curl up together for a Christmas movie, decorate cookies (even if they’re not Instagram-worthy!), or simply spend time chatting and listening.
Let go of the need to “get it all right.” Small, shared moments of joy often create memories that last much longer than grand gestures.
For children who’ve experienced instability, your steady presence is the greatest gift you can give. Knowing someone is emotionally and physically there for them offers a sense of comfort and belonging that no material gift could replace.
Create simple, meaningful traditions together like sharing a festive bedtime story in a wintertime pillow fort or decorate the Christmas tree, letting the child pick favourite ornaments and decide where they go. You could take a walk to see the Christmas lights, and get to know them better, or use the time to share more about you. December is also a great time to reflect and make plans for the year ahead so you can take some time out to chat about their hopes and dreams for the coming year.
These thoughtful rituals make children feel seen, heard, and loved. They provide a foundation of connection and reassurance that no shiny new gadget could rival.
Christmas, with all its noise, lights, and social expectations, can be overstimulating – especially for children who may have experienced trauma. Finding a way to celebrate with them in a way that feels calm, peaceful and manageable is one way that you can show how much you care. Here are some other things you can try incorporate into your seasonal plans:
For children in care, the true magic of Christmas lies not in the extravagance of the season but in its simple joys: the laughter shared over a board game, the calm of a quiet evening, or the warmth of a shared meal. By focusing on connection, creating space for their emotions, and letting love guide your celebrations, you can offer a holiday that nurtures and uplifts. This Christmas, show them that joy isn’t found in perfection – it’s found in being together.
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